There are 2 kinds of people in this world, those who allow drama in their lives and those who don't. I prefer to be around the latter. I am the latter. It makes me uncomfortable when someone tries to bring drama my way. Drama serves no one and usually hurts someone while abondaning the truth. I don't see it as a form of entertainment or worth my attention at all.
This does not mean I'm a push over and don't stick up for myself. I'm anything but and I will stand up for myself when needed. Where I differ from a lot of people is WHEN its needed. Is the other person or people deserving of a reaction out of me? Will it make a difference? Will it serve me? Will it change anything? Does it really matter? Am I better off letting it go and removing the other person or people from my world? Did they belong there in the first place?
The last thing you will see me doing is defending myself against rumors and gossip. I have chosen to surround myself with people who are above that and wouldn't believe a rumor anyway. In fact, the chances of the people in my world even hearing the rumors and gossip are slim to none. I have control over who is in my world, in my life. I do not choose people who participate in nonsense. I prefer people with bigger things to set their minds on and talk about. I simply don't hang around people who participate in nonsense.
Since I have risen above rumors and gossip, it's powerless to effect me. It's not worth my time. I leave it beneath me where it belongs and hang out with others that have risen above. Chances are, I won't hear the gossip and rumors myself becasue I'm so far removed from that world and people.
I won't argue online, really, could you get anymore mindless and cowardly?
A while ago, a girl claimed to be me on a networking site. I put up a post letting people know that she wasn't me. I then asked her to take the ad down. Someone responded on that site with mentioning a cat fight. My first impression is "well, I need to make sure I never see that guy" The fact that he would enjoy the mindless sickness tells me that he isn't the type of person I want to see. Who encourages fights in any way then is entertained by them? How eventless and boring have you allowed your existence to become that your entertained by drama? Just like in real life, I choose who gets to be in my professional world too.
On rare occasion, I get people publicaly trying to start something, often in response to something that they don't feel their worth of. As far as I'm concerned, every last human is worthy of the best of everything, whatever that means to you. It's sad to see too many humans don't realize that so they don't give it to themselves. It's all a choice.
I put up a post last spring when things changed in the hobby asking about the best high end websites. Another provider responded with a not so nice remark. I didn't see her chosen words as worth as response so I simply blocked her. No drama, no internet mindless arguement. No negativity. Life give us enough negative, I really don't feel I need to go looking for more. I don't even remember the girl's name, it's not imporotant to me.
The one who angers you controls you. I'm not one to be controled.
You also won't ever see me taking sides in an argument, I leave that nonsense to those who choose to have it.
I'm not at all saying I'm perfect. When it comes to the hobby, I'm pretty good. It's easier when I can just close laptop and leave the nonsense to those who created it in the first place. I really don't care what others think or say about me. It's none of my business. No no one defines me but and if someone doesn't like it, I'm good with that. If someone loves me, I'm good with that too. I'm going to be me regardless. Approval not needed.
I will treat all humans with respect regardless of how they feel about me. I'm responsible for my character. I work hard to be a good, honest, respectful person and I treat others accordingly because it's who I am. It's a reflection of me. The abilbity to treat others better than they deserve is a skill I worked hard on. It wasn't easy and I still catch myself slipping at times. Sometimes respecing another person is simply ignoring them without putting them down or allowing their negativity to enter my head. I respect that's who they choose to be and I respect me for knowing I don't need that in my life. I leave them in their world without judgment.
We all have the ability to make the choice to do better and be better.